Who I am is not defined by what I do. I am not “just an adoptive mom.” I am not “just a wife.” My earthly credentials will never seem glamorous in the eyes of some. To others, it seems I have accomplished great things. Even to my own eyes at times, I am overwhelmed by the weight of the missed opportunities, the unfulfilled dreams, and the unreached goals.
I have been so blessed to have been married almost 20 years to a man who loves more unconditionally than anyone I have ever met. I am a 40-year-old woman who has never given life to a child through pregnancy, but I have adopted 14 amazing kids and will soon add three more to that number. I have an Associate’s degree in Psychology. I have a Bachelor’s degree in Bible. I have another Bachelor’s degree in Interdisciplinary Social Science with a focus on Family Support Services. I have traveled internationally. I have seen the Pacific Ocean and the Atlantic Ocean as well as the Gulf of Mexico (from 30,000 feet up). I have relaxed in a cabin in the mountains, at a lakeside campground in Kansas, and on the white sandy beaches of the Caribbean. I have walked in the footsteps of history in Washington, D.C., and I have stared out in awe over the cavernous depths of the Grand Canyon. I have taught tiny children in AWANA and Sunday School, and I have trained adults who want to care for children who need a family. I have heard that still, small whisper of God speaking into my life, and I have heard the loud, booming chorus of praise as He is lifted up in worship in a room of thousands of believers. I have cheered on my kids in their soccer games, and I have celebrated in the stands with 50,000 family members cheering on the K-State Wildcats football team.
Yet none of this defines me. There is nothing more I need to do. I am whole and complete because I am His child. I do not have to be defined by accomplishments or credentials. There are no limits to what God has planned for me. He created me to be His child. Before I was ever born, He knew the life that He would give me (Psalm 139). He sees the joy and the pain (Psalm 34:15). He allows the UPs and the DOWNs to come (1 Peter 4:12-13). I am HIS beloved (Song of Solomon 6:3). He “takes great delight in me” and “rejoices over me with singing” (Zephaniah 3:17). His ways are not my ways and His ways are higher than mine (Isaiah 55:8-9).
When I take time to open up His Word and learn what He says about me, I find out exactly who I am. His. It’s all I ever need to be. It’s all you ever need to be, friend. All of those truths are meant for you, too! If we could learn these truths and apply them to our lives, we could stop being hindered by our own expectations and the world’s. We could be the wives, mothers, friends, employees and more that GOD wants us to be because we would be resting confidently in HIS plan. You, my friend, are His. That’s the highest calling we could have in life, and we only need to accept it. It’s not about anything we have to DO or ACHIEVE. Just choose to be His.
Are you letting the world define you? Or are you resting in God’s promises and His definition and plan for your life?